The Most Recent Annoying Thing Ever:
While at lunch at Pizzeria Paradiso (aka, Not As Good As Two Amys) with the fabulous Mary Lacey, our server sparked up quite an annoying conversation with me at the end of lunch.
Server: So, I like to play this game with Asian women
Me: What?
Server: You know, I like to try and guess their ethnicity
Me: Hmm. That’s really weird, and kind of inappropriate/racist. But I’ll play, if you raise the stakes. If you guess wrong, then the check is free.
Server: Well, I don’ t know about that.
Me: …
Server: Sooo, are you Korean?
Me: Yeah, yeah. Good job.
Server: I’m so good at this.
Me: Do you have yellow fever or something?
Server: Why did you have to bring it there?
Me: Because you did!?
Not but two minutes later:
Server: Well, my ex girlfriend was half Korean, half Black…
Me: **staring at ML, like, “I can’t believe this is happening”**
But it made me beg the question:
Why is it appropriate to ask?
It’s not like we were friends or anything. Or that he was also Korean, looking for the nearest Dry Cleaner or Liquor Store….
Moreover, why is it acceptable to ask this to an Asian woman? Had the conversation went like this:
White Guy: I like to play this game with Black Women
Black Woman: WHAT?
White Guy: What is your ethnicity?
Black Woman: *cuts White Guy*
It’s just ridiculous. Thinking back, I should have said to the Server (who was black), some sort of racially-motivated retort of “Black men always play games”, or something. But in choosing not to stoop to his level, he may never get the point of why it is inappropriate for a complete stranger to ask, prior to even asking my name.
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